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Mom Fail Friday: The One Where Grownups Act Like Children

It has been a crazy, drama-filled week. After a very successful fundraising event on Saturday, I was accosted by one of the volunteers on Monday over an incident that I believed to be a non-event. It was especially a non-event for me, as I was not one of the people involved at the time. To make a very long, uninteresting story short, my friend corrected another mother’s child in a group setting. (It takes a whole village, right?) Apparently, the mother took great offense to both the way it was handled and to the fact that I did not step in.

I’m not sure why that would have been my place. Sure, she is my friend but—I don’t know about you—I don’t control my friends. Nor do I believe her reprimand to be out of place. The child’s actions placed my friend in a very dangerous situation. She had every right to be upset about that and was not out of line in her reaction. Regardless, she apologized for stepping in, and the other mother accepted. End of story, right? Um, apparently not.

Fast forward 2 days later—I am the one being yelled at, told I am an irresponsible leader and that she would be supervising my troop meetings for the rest of the year. Um, no. Instead, I decided not to attend the next day’s meeting—there was obviously plenty of adult supervision for my co-leader, and I felt it best to put some time & space between us to allow the situation to cool off. Our next meeting is 4 weeks away due to spring break, and I had hoped things would blow over.

The next day, I was unfriended on Facebook by my co-leader. Um, what? Let me break this down for you. An incident occurred between Person A (my friend) and Person B. I (as Person C) was yelled at and unfriended by Person D as a result. Yeah, I don’t get it either. Apparently, it’s like grade school where you aren’t allowed to be friends with someone your friend doesn’t like. Anyway, that’s all irrelevant but it’s part of my story. And this is my blog.

The real point is, I then received an email asking if I would be finding a new troop for Brenia or if she should break off on her own. Wow. Wow. Wow. My daughter has to find a new group because grownups can’t behave like grownups? I hate that something this ridiculous is affecting my child. I feel like I’ve failed her somehow, though I’m not entirely sure what I should have done differently. And, I don’t know how to explain it to her, since I don’t even understand it myself.

“I’m sorry honey. You can’t be friends with those girls because their mommies don’t like your mommy’s friend.”

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Heather Sokol is the married mother of many amazing, active children through birth, adoption, and foster care. They have created in her a Sports Mom, Scout Mom, Band Mom, Dance Mom, Allergy Mom & avid coupon clipper. Is that miscellaneous enough for you? She shares her deals & tips at Inexpensively.com and reports progress on learning to be a grownup at JustHeather.com. justheather tagged this post with: , Read 94 articles by

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  1. Allison says:

    I just don’t even know what to say. That is just plain nuts. You DID NOT FAIL here. You can chalk it up to that catty bunch of cliquey mean girls in high school–the ones who apparently still are. This makes me INSANELY INFURIATED. Give Brenia a hug for me. XOXO

  2. Jen says:

    Could Brenia still be in the group without you as a leader? Maybe not what you had in mind but lets her stay in the group with her friends. Like you said, maybe approach it again after spring break when some time has passed. Bummer all around either way.

  3. wow. yes, very immature and ridiculous! Give me a break, grow up ladies! Hugs Heather you and your girl are better off without them!

  4. CreativeDecoMom says:

    Wow, I don’t even know what to say here. I always correct other kids when it is needed, whether I am leading Girl Scouts, in the class room, or just around other people. I also expect my friends and other parents to correct mine if I miss something which will happen as I am not a helicopter parent and standing over them all the time. I am not even sure how you got dragged into this one though. I do hope that the others come to their senses and this can resolve itself.

  5. WOW! That is just ridiculous! That is exactly why we moved from a small town to a larger small town. Everyone is in everyone’s business when it has NOTHING to do with them.
    Your situation is just CRAZY since it involves kids…sounds to me like you need to find a new troop who won’t be so petty and childish. It’s just too bad for your daughter!

  6. That’s just sad. Your daughter has nothing to do with that nonsense and she should be left out of it all together.
    I would be livid if I were you.
    Wow. some people…

  7. Wow, that is one of the more ridiculous mom fails I have ever seen- on her part, not yours! This is crazy, and I feel so badly for your daughter. Is there someone higher up you can discuss this with? I’m sorry you’re in this situation, how awful!

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  9. Shell says:

    UGH! It’s like being back in junior high!

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