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Why Are Other Women Threatened By Single Mothers?

Allow me to tell you how much I love the town I live in. I have a great network of friends. The princess attends a good school. We live close to the dance mom network & the dance school where we spend A LOT of time. Where I live is really good for me, with one tiny exception. 

I swear I am the only single mom living here. 

Therefore, I am something of a leper. I frequently get bizarre looks & much pity from the billion stay at home moms who live here. I often am running into retrieve the princess from activities (still in heels & a suit) to race off to the next place we were supposed to be 15 minutes ago. I am not ever the one to pick her up from school, and I don’t volunteer in the classroom. And, no, her father won’t be attending either. 

When I am running around crazy, forgetting permissions slips and paying library fines, I get the feeling the other moms in my neighborhood just don’t get me.  I know that as parents, we are all busy. We all want the best for our children, and we all find it necessary to balance different roles in our lives. Even with so many similarities, I am suspicious the moms of my town think I am doing this wrong.

This is not to say that I don’t WANT to do those other things; I just can’t. As a single mom, I have to work. I don’t have the option to be a stay at home mom.  I don’t get to chaperon field trips or go to special days in the classroom. I wish I did. But, that just isn’t my reality. 

I am grateful to those who can lead the Girl Scout troop and chair the class fundraiser. I just can’t be there to do it.  (Also, I lose the forms anyway. Nobody would benefit from having me in charge.) You may occasionally see the father of the princess at events, but don’t count on it.

This does not mean that I wish to steal your husband. 

Really, I don’t. I’m not desperate and lonely. In fact, I’m quite fulfilled with the relationships that I maintain. If you see me speaking to your husband in line for the concession stand, I PROMISE we are talking about the kids or work or the weather. I am not trying to pick him up. You do not need to parade your family over to investigate the situation. I am not a threat. I want nothing more than to get out of the building so that I may go home and finish the billion loads of laundry and maybe get to bed at a decent hour.

Next time you see me at an event, please keep in mind that I’ve been wearing heels for the last 10 hours, and I haven’t eaten since breakfast.  So, if I am desperately trying to get out the door, it is because I am uncomfortable in my pretty shoes & hungry.  I am not trying to skip out on the parenting. 

Just say hello, and save the rest of the judgments for the next time.

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My name is Mom. I live in Fairy Tale Land with a Pirate, a Fairy and the Princess. My job duties include: head cook, Chief Executive of Laundry Operations, Vacuum Maintenance Engineer, Chief of Picking up Random objects and Primary Sherpa. I spend a great deal of time carrying sparkly, sequined, glitter covered tutus and miscellaneous dance shoes for the Princess. I long for moments of quiet and a mani/pedi. Trying to strike a balance between being a grown up and being a good mom. FairyTaleMom tagged this post with: Read 52 articles by

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  1. MCWBOO says:

    Wow. Your pretty shoes make your feet hurt? I think the shoe comment sums this up. You make your own choices of how to live, (including which shoes to wear). Please don’t treat the rest of us to the “You have no idea what my reality is…” and then accuse us of being “judgemental”. We all make choices and, as grown-ups, we live with the result of those choices. Pick some better shoes.

  2. Just Heather says:

    Pretty shoes hurt my feet too! But, but…they’re just so pretty.

    Also? I cannot wait to see this in action someday. It never occurred to me that a woman would be after the hubby just because she’s single. I gave you his cell phone number! Clearly, I am doing this wrong.

  3. MCWBOO says:

    IKR? 🙂

  4. Just saying hello, but planning to skip the judgment altogether.
    Have a great day.
    Virginia

  5. Heather says:

    Ha – too cute, Virginia!

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