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Who takes care of me?

albino ferret

Goodbye, Missy

Last night, my ferret died. Actually, I’m calling it early this morning so I don’t have to remember it as Lorelai’s birthday.

This morning, I put on a happy face, took my daughter to school and participated in her birthday celebration. Now, I am grieving, but the hard part comes this afternoon—we have to tell the girls.

I don’t want to tell them, but not just because it breaks my heart to hurt them. My own grieving process ends the moment they learn our pet has passed. It will instead be my job to nurture three distraught children. I will cuddle them while they cry. I will wipe their tears. I will hold little hands while we bury Missy.

But, what about me?

Instead of being coddled, hugged & tucked into bed tonight, I will do laundry. I will fix dinner. I will meet their needs. It’s just what moms do. Life goes on, and I want to whine about how it’s not fair. I don’t want to cook & clean & hide my tears.

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Heather Sokol is the married mother of many amazing, active children through birth, adoption, and foster care. They have created in her a Sports Mom, Scout Mom, Band Mom, Dance Mom, Allergy Mom & avid coupon clipper. Is that miscellaneous enough for you? She shares her deals & tips at Inexpensively.com and reports progress on learning to be a grownup at JustHeather.com. justheather tagged this post with: , , Read 94 articles by

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  1. That’s what friends are for. You don’t have to hide your tears with friends. Just wish I was closer… I’d even be willing to cuddle. Oh wait, did you say ‘coddle’? Awkward… *whistles and walks away*

    Sorry about Missy. Pets can mean so much. It’s hard to say goodbye 🙁 *hugs*

  2. LizzB says:

    I’m so sorry 🙁

    Our dog died in May and it was hard. I missed my dog. But having to see the kids go through that grief shattered my heart in a million pieces. And, like you, I had to be strong. I was amazed how composed I was. But then, as their immediate grief started to subside mine started to bubble up. Days 4-7 after he died were the hardest on me, because day 1-3 were the hardest on them. The less they needed to lean on me, the more I was able to deal with it myself.

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