“How was school?”
“What did you do today?”
It’s a conversation happening in minivans around the world, every afternoon. If you want to really find out what your kids are doing at school all day, you’re going to have to change the questions. Or, you know, friend their teachers on Facebook.
But, if you like to hear about your kids’ day directly from the source, here are my favorite questions for extracting some real information:
“What was your favorite part of today?”
“Did you use any new materials today?”
“Who did you play with at recess?”
“Why is your shirt on backwards?”
Wait, that one’s just for Lorelai. The rest of the questions, though, are perfect for sparking conversations. I get the answers to my initial questions, then they just don’t stop talking. I hear about their day on the way home, with stories coming out all afternoon.
One interesting thing that’s happened through this is they recap things for their dad at dinner, and end up telling us even more. The girls will share details of their day I’d never think to ask about. Even my teen will talk about her day at school.
Yesterday, I learned that Lorelai has 4 new kids in her class, Brenia loves the new math lessons in upper elementary (but still prefers geography) and Stacia is disappointed there are no boys her age. I’m not so sad about that, myself.
So, how do you get your kids to open up about their day?